i'm certain that at some point i'll actually share this blog. and when i do...i foresee a slew of questions regarding why we haven't told people at this point about our plans. and we have lots of reasons.
at this point we are looking to start and complete our home study. all blessings (from here forward, ABI) assures that process can take a month or less for us. and really, after the homestudy we wait for the referral...of course there's tons of more legal work after the home study, but to get things going in taiwan, all they really care about is seeing the home study completed...not even the dossier is required to begin that...but obviously we must also complete that. so we want this major step behind us before telling people.
but why still?
i look at it how i did getting my tattoo. shock alert to anyone who wasn't aware the straight-laced cara dee did in fact get a tattoo. it's very visible, i'm not hiding it....here's a shot of it my friend nina mullins took when we were in norway of it...
jacob and i felt strongly about getting these tattoos. as you've already come to realize it's been a very up and down two years and hebrews 6:19 "for we have this hope as an anchor for our soul, firm and secure", has been another verse we have clung to. so for his birthday last year we both got these. for each other, for reminders of who our hope lies in.
we knew there would be people who disagreed with our decision of getting them and who probably wouldn't understand and would probably have their opinion to offer on the matter both biblically and otherwise. but it was an "us" thing and "God" thing...and so we did it.
jacob and i have felt strongly about adoption for YEARS. it didn't even just start when i went to ethiopia to document the mullins adoption over two years ago...but it definitely confirmed it. in fact, after we returned from south africa over two years ago we met with a local agency to start the adoption process and for various other reasons deteremined it was not the right time. and now it is.
we expect to hear questions of if we have given up on having children biologically. and that answer is no. but even if we chose to not try for biological anymore...i'm not entirely sure that would be everyone else's business. taiwan prefers you have no other children and so to follow through with the adoption there we plan to keep biological endeavors at bay. we feel strongly about adoption...and now. and while we have no idea what God has in store biologically, we will cross that when we get there.
in that same statement. adoption is not our plan b. never was. and remains that way. as i said we had plans to start this path years ago and were detoured for reasons only God currently understands...but we have come back to it now and are more excited than ever...and that's something God has been growing in our hearts.
so why haven't we told people. because it's a God thing. and an us thing. and we are getting our own heads wrapped around it before exposing it to all the world's own opinions and statements. we wanted to know more about the process and the country and be more "prepared" in a way, if that's even really possible. we know there will be questions, even good ones and positive ones, but we want to read up and feel a bit more knowledable in it all before that time.
so once our home study is complete in the next month, we will probably tell close friends and family...and then go public with it.
at this point we are looking to start and complete our home study. all blessings (from here forward, ABI) assures that process can take a month or less for us. and really, after the homestudy we wait for the referral...of course there's tons of more legal work after the home study, but to get things going in taiwan, all they really care about is seeing the home study completed...not even the dossier is required to begin that...but obviously we must also complete that. so we want this major step behind us before telling people.
but why still?
i look at it how i did getting my tattoo. shock alert to anyone who wasn't aware the straight-laced cara dee did in fact get a tattoo. it's very visible, i'm not hiding it....here's a shot of it my friend nina mullins took when we were in norway of it...
jacob and i felt strongly about getting these tattoos. as you've already come to realize it's been a very up and down two years and hebrews 6:19 "for we have this hope as an anchor for our soul, firm and secure", has been another verse we have clung to. so for his birthday last year we both got these. for each other, for reminders of who our hope lies in.
we knew there would be people who disagreed with our decision of getting them and who probably wouldn't understand and would probably have their opinion to offer on the matter both biblically and otherwise. but it was an "us" thing and "God" thing...and so we did it.
jacob and i have felt strongly about adoption for YEARS. it didn't even just start when i went to ethiopia to document the mullins adoption over two years ago...but it definitely confirmed it. in fact, after we returned from south africa over two years ago we met with a local agency to start the adoption process and for various other reasons deteremined it was not the right time. and now it is.
we expect to hear questions of if we have given up on having children biologically. and that answer is no. but even if we chose to not try for biological anymore...i'm not entirely sure that would be everyone else's business. taiwan prefers you have no other children and so to follow through with the adoption there we plan to keep biological endeavors at bay. we feel strongly about adoption...and now. and while we have no idea what God has in store biologically, we will cross that when we get there.
in that same statement. adoption is not our plan b. never was. and remains that way. as i said we had plans to start this path years ago and were detoured for reasons only God currently understands...but we have come back to it now and are more excited than ever...and that's something God has been growing in our hearts.
so why haven't we told people. because it's a God thing. and an us thing. and we are getting our own heads wrapped around it before exposing it to all the world's own opinions and statements. we wanted to know more about the process and the country and be more "prepared" in a way, if that's even really possible. we know there will be questions, even good ones and positive ones, but we want to read up and feel a bit more knowledable in it all before that time.
so once our home study is complete in the next month, we will probably tell close friends and family...and then go public with it.
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